I was raised in a family that yelled. Not all the time but a lot. It was if you spoke in normal tones no one really cared. It seemed that when you had something to say, it was unimportant until you yelled with anger or sadness before anyone would listen. I got used to yelling.
As an adult, I am not afraid to yell, but I prefer to talk normally and trust that my audience respects me enough to hear what I am saying the first time and listen. Because hopefully, what I say matters to them.
I also want to listen. Which leads to two way communication. Yelling is one person giving their delivery of what matters to them and hoping that because of the octave, the receiver will actually hear.
But do they?
As I look at the journey of the LGBTQ community and all it's history, I ask myself if society is listening when we speak about our issues and our needs. And if what we say matters to them...or maybe that is YOU. Does what we say matter to you?
Or do you wait until we yell?
You see, I started LIVEEqUAL and decided that we would be a company that would quietly change the views of people by offering an approach that didn't yell at society with rainbows or protests. I truly wanted LIVEEqUAL to be a platform that was subtle yet effective for the LGBTQ community and their allies to stand together in silent unity.
But I fear that you will ONLY LISTEN IF I YELL!
That LIVEEqUAL isn't enough noise to make you listen.
That the LGBTQ agenda and what we need doesn't matter to you.
I have been criticized and scolded for not being bold enough for the LGBTQ community. Or being more active in the LGBTQ events or committees. For not protesting or doing advocacy work. For not YELLING.
But I don't want to yell. Even if that is the only way you will listen. I am not afraid of yelling....it is necessary sometimes. But I don't want to do it. I don't think it is my best self when I yell.
I want you to listen. Not just to me or to my LGBTQ issues but to all people. To any group that is hurting and telling you they need something. I think so many advocacy groups; even churches have done nothing but yell, and I don't think we are in a better place or hearing each other more.
So, I here is what I ask of you reader: Don't yell. Don't make me yell. Just tell one person what matters to you and ask that one person to tell one person. And so on. And then listen when that one person tells you what matters to them.
And if you feel so obliged , tell one person about LIVEEqUAL. We truly want change. We truly want equality. One quiet voice at a time.