June is world widely known as PRIDE month. Gay PRIDE.
I truly want to think that since I came out in 2009, the social issues of being gay have gotten so much better. Compared to Harvey Milk in 1978, we have come so far as a nation and as a world and surely we are making progress every day. I truly have believed gay pride was a way for LGBTQIA to celebrate who we are and where we have come. To HOPE we can soon become a society who lets others live as they choose and to witness hate slowly fading away.
But I have to ask myself if PRIDE is just stirring up hate? I have to ask myself if PRIDE is a place where I gather with other gay people to flaunt a life I really don't need to show off. I have to ask myself, what is it really accomplishing?
I suppose my opinions and ideas are not warm and fuzzy and I KNOW I don't speak for everyone. But my thoughts about PRIDE are scary and cautious. I wonder if we are giving a platform to haters, who will NEVER accept us, a venue to hurt us. I wonder if it contradicts what I am asking society to do. Which is to let me live quietly, normal, with my wife, kids and 4 dogs.
So I am not sure that things are better than they were in 1978. They are different, much different ...but I don't think they are necessarily better. I truly believe that if I want to dance in a gay club, I should have freedom of fear that I will be targeted for such things . I truly believe if I want to worship in a church, that I should have freedom of fear that I will be targeted for such things. I truly believe if I were black, I should have freedom of fear that the police will hurt me for such things.
But I am not sure that is where we are as a culture. I am not sure there are any freedoms of fear any more.
It makes me sad. It baffles my mind. It confuses me on whether to fight or quietly tuck my tail. It makes me unsure!
SO LET ME BE CLEAR: I may not be sure we as people are getting better. I may not be sure we are making progress in such matters.
Here is what I am sure of: I am sure that LOVE is bigger than hate. I am sure that God and his rainbow only represent LOVE. I am sure that God loves me, you and the haters at pride parade. I am sure I will choose love anytime over hate and I am sure PRIDE is my American right!
This is a post I've seen: Not mine but I don't know who to give credit to.
"Gay pride was not born of a need to celebrate being gay, but the right to exist without persecution. So instead of wondering why there isn't a Straight Pride movement, be thankful you don't need one"