So recently we moved to a new and upcoming area of OKC – 20 minutes away from the very conservative suburb which is the only place that our kids have ever known. We made this move because we wanted to, because we are gay and because we wanted to try and show them a more acceptable and open way to look at the world.
Speaking for myself as a parent, I have always had grand ideas that the opportunities to enlighten them, teach them and show them a more loving way to accept all people would be something that when it happened, the sky would open up and the heavens would shine down on me to ensure me that I was doing good work as a parent. But this life moment that taught my daughter something wonderful, really had nothing to do with me and would be such a subtle yet impactful way to teach her what it means to care for others by JUST NOT CARING.
Now in this new lovingly called “Hood” we have a ton of new and fun restaurants that are truly changing the social setting for OKC. It’s a good thing and this restaurant is not only known for their AMAZING food, GREAT staff, but they were just recognized for being the best GAY restaurant in OKC. Chae : www.chaeokc.com . Thank you for agreeing to be the feature of this post but even more thank you for making an impact on our daughter and you probably didn't even know it.
You see, you eat, you drink and then POOF – seal broken and you have to go to the bathroom. You kindly ask where the restroom is and once you tuck behind the wall where it is located when you get to the restrooms at Chae you find 2 bathrooms and each have this sign!
I loved it and my daughter (age 14) noticed it without even pointing it out. “It’s a really cool statement “she said. “It’s true…why do people care,” she said. I was proud!
You see there is so much controversy around the public use of bathrooms for our Trans community to use the bathroom that identifies with their birth gender. But to all of those people that support birth identity restrooms, I want to scream at you! YOU DON'T GET IT. And you are not even trying to get it. Trans people are not PERVERTS. Perverts are PERVERTS and it doesn’t have anything to do with a perverts gender identity.
But since I have dragged my kids into this blog let me just make you sure you are really clear about where I stand on this as a concerned parent for the safety and well being of my kids. I had young kids once – they are teenagers now. But no matter what age, I don’t think it’s fair to the transgender female nor is it fair to my 17 year old son to have to go into a men’s restroom with someone who seems and looks just like a female. As far as anyone is concerned, she is female. And I think the reverse is totally true as well.
Do any of the people screaming for birth certificate bathroom attendance really need to know what the genitals are of people going into the restroom? Have you been checking or asking them to show it to you when they come in?So why do we care if they attend the bathroom of the gender they identify with? If you see someone in there that is a pervert or doesn’t seem to have a normal purpose….then report them. But unless you are lifting up a skirt to look and see what “junk” they were born with then leave the people that want to go into “their gender identity restroom” ALONE.
I am PROUD that my friends at Chae, could teach my daughter NOT TO CARE!